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Grown Woman

"TOO MOTIVATED BY THE PROMISE TO BE AGGRAVATED BY THE PROBLEM."

Girls leave their schedule wide-open and wait for a guy to call and make plans.
Grown women make their own plans and nicely tell the guy to get in where he fits.

Girls want to control the man in their life.
Grown women know that if he's truly hers, he doesn't need controlling.

Girls check you for not calling them.
Grown women are too busy to realize you hadn't.

Girls are afraid to be alone.
Grown women revel in it-using it as a time for personal growth.

Girls ignore the good guys.
Grown women ignore the bad guys.

Girls make you come home.
Grown women make you want to come home.

Girls worry about not being pretty and/or good enough for their man.
Grown women know that they are pretty and/or good enough for any man.

Girls try to monopolize all their man's time (i.e., don't want him hanging with his friends).
Grown women realize that a lil' bit of space makes the 'together time' even more special-and goes to kick it with her own friends.

Girls think a guy crying is weak.
Grown women offer their shoulder and a tissue.

Girls want to be spoiled and 'tell' their man so.
Grown women 'show' him and make him comfortable enough to reciprocate without fear of losing his 'manhood'.

Girls get hurt by one man and make all men pay for it.
Grown women know that that was just one man.

Girls fall in love and chase aimlessly after the object of their affection, ignoring all 'signs'.
Grown women know that sometimes the one you love, don't always love you back-and move on, without bitterness.

Girls will read this and get an attitude.
Grown women will read this and pass it on to other Grown women and their male friends.

Do not go where the path may lead, go instead, where there is no path and leave a trail."

WHICH ARE YOU?

A Girl or GROWN WOMAN
Hmmmm?

SING THEM KEYS....KEYS!

The song that I am singing, humming, blasting in my car and have got on repeat at home is Alicia Keys, Like you’ll never see me again….it’s like I’ve been hypnotised.

She has lyrics like…… “I don’t want to forget that the present is a gift”
“I don’t want to take for granted the time that you have here with me”

The song touches me so deeply…Miss Keys beautifully vocalises the true meaning of love and living everyday, as it’s your last. This to me I can apply to all my relationships…family, friends and when I get a man I will be singing this to him everyday. I can hear myself now hitting them high notes! LOL

Its so easy to go through life not really appreciating the people around you…taking for granted the things that they do for you, not letting them know how much you care for them, just thanking them for being them.

Money can buy everything in this world, but it can definitely not buy love. You can have every materialist object in this world but you can still have nothing without the people you love around you. If you think about your life now, then imagine it without the people that have provided the foundation of your being, would you be the same person?

I’m not saying that you should buy a Ferrari with a big red ribbon round it for you man or blow all your life savings on a 10 year holiday for your mom. It’s just the simple things that count. Like texting your friends and telling them thank you for being you, telling your sister that how proud you are of her, hugging your mom when she’s feeling down…It’s truly the little things that count, do it now as you never know it could be the last time.

Tomorrow is not a definite……

ARE YOU READING HIP HOP?

OK, here is a piece of spoken word peotry that I just came across.....my girl Bridget Gray she speaks directly to Hip Hop about the way that women are being used as sexual objects. Having young Black men idolising an unrealistic dream of being a ‘Gangster’ represent by artists.

If you take Hip Hop back to its roots, it was about celebrating Black culture and empowering Black people NOT degrading the creators of life. Music videos are getting more and more sexual.... you can even argue they are daytime porn! Hip Hop in its TRUE roots was about encouraging young black men to be free and take control of their life’s NOT be a slave to the materialised western culture.

I often sit there wondering about the women in these video's how THEY feel.... Is life so hard that you have to give away you self respect on a plate?…..Is life so hard that you that one minute clip of you ass shaking makes you feel good? As the media is modelled into our western lifestyles, there is no escaping this portrayal of women for the younger generation...that know every move to strip tease music video. Where is the hope?

When I see Snoop, Dre and Nas with a 10 bedroom house and two cars worth of ‘bling bling’ swinging around their necks talking about guns, being a gangster whilst they are sitting up in they high security properties, in the upper class part of Miami…so far away from the ghettos that they rap about…..so far away from the young boys are killing each other and in and out of the prison system….just wanting to gain that little bit of respect just to be like them.


Like Bridget says…if you take away the beats and only listen to the lyrics…would you still be dancing?

Life In the clouds

I sit, I stare, I wonder.....will life continue on the unsteady path or will I end up like Dorothy on a yellow brick road....full of adventure, but never wanting to find my way home.